tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post434166465048284797..comments2024-02-13T03:18:16.636-07:00Comments on The Adventures of Zube Girl: Deep Down Inside, I'm Sort of a Koombaya-aholic. But Always with a Touch of Snark.Zubehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10625067612757615790noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-84940400750885572502008-08-16T23:17:00.000-07:002008-08-16T23:17:00.000-07:00You go with your Zube self(ves)! I could make a ni...You go with your Zube self(ves)! I could make a nice long dramatic post about how much I appreciated this article, but I can't think of anything constructive to add that hasn't already been said. You rock, and I'm a new fan.RebTurtlehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00323150995310258997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-37656405377125800142008-07-19T18:49:00.000-07:002008-07-19T18:49:00.000-07:00Nicely done. My first time here, and I'm definitel...Nicely done. My first time here, and I'm definitely coming back for more.Pattihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15844055337207298545noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-14482479429930865762008-07-17T20:09:00.000-07:002008-07-17T20:09:00.000-07:00Y'know, I hate to break it to the gifter, but he I...Y'know, I hate to break it to the gifter, but he IS being judgmental. What we (anyone who blogs) shares on the Web is merely a snippet of ourselves. No matter how often we post, or what we post about, or how intimate the subject matter we share, it will never be more than one small piece of who we are. He's taking that one little bit, drawing up his own interpretation of the whole "you" and coming to a conclusion about what you "need". Sorry, but that's judging someone.<BR/><BR/>Honestly, Zube, you dealt with it a log better than I would have. Someone sending me such a "gift" would have received it back, along with a note along the lines of "Christopher Titus stated that after a near death experience he read through the entire Bible twice, cover to cover, seeking answers. He stated that he could sum the Bible up in one sentence: Don't be a dick. I'm returning this 'gift' because I believe you may need it's message more than I do. Thanks."<BR/><BR/>PhilM<BR/><A HREF="http://nomadechoes.blogdrive.com" REL="nofollow">Echoes in a Nomad's Head</A><BR/><BR/>P.S. And I'm a Christian ;)Philhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11335520287026507876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-70433165809034182492008-07-17T10:41:00.000-07:002008-07-17T10:41:00.000-07:00What *I* find really disturbing is that the excerp...What *I* find really disturbing is that the excerpt from your gifter's letter is predominantly about him. Most sentencence begins with "I", and it's all about how he feels and what he thinks.<BR/><BR/>It's condescending. The gift itself is condescending, and even though it might have cost him actual money, he did it because he thinks his way is the right away. The one thing I've learned in my life, as I have grown into an adult woman (like you), is that there is no one way to being a good person and finding your way in this world.<BR/><BR/>He wouldn't like you to think he's condemning you or judging, because that would make him wrong and un-Christian, but he also was clear that he doesn't approve of you blogging about the rape and abortion, and he calls you a frightened, sad little girl who is unsure of herself on the inside, which to me, is a judgement.<BR/><BR/>He ends it by saying that we have all done things we regret, as if you should be regretting your ways of life, and that, my dear, is primo judgement. Whatever good was meant by sending you a bible was overwrought with the letter that contained so much negativity.<BR/><BR/>I would send the bible back to him with a kind letter telling him that I appreciate the gesture, but if the gift is intended to put me on the "right" path, then it could better be used by another, because my path is the right one for me. And I'd simply wish him peace, because this is a person who has no idea how hypocritical he is, and telling him so would only make him defensive. I wish the guy peace. And I'm glad he didn't send me a bible, because I wouldn't have handled it as well as you.<BR/><BR/>And you know that I think you're a fabulous woman, an inspiration, and your path in this life is beautiful and bittersweet, as are all of our paths. I'm so proud of you.Happy Villainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11276030867866594194noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-6619205259035884182008-07-15T21:54:00.000-07:002008-07-15T21:54:00.000-07:00You handled that marvelously and with grace and wi...You handled that marvelously and with grace and with tact. <BR/><BR/>Kudos to you. <BR/><BR/>And I think you're a pretty amazing adult woman, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-81692788000504579592008-07-15T20:21:00.000-07:002008-07-15T20:21:00.000-07:00"However, where you hear a frightened, sad little ..."However, where you hear a frightened, sad little girl, I hear a Merely Confused, Albeit Opinionated, Pretty Sarcastic, Hopelessly Pollyanna, ADULT WOMAN."<BR/><BR/>That line, right there, says to me that you've dealt very well. <BR/><BR/>I had more to say, but it's not my place to tell this person what my own personal views are. That's for my own blog. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-44211336779674057232008-07-15T20:11:00.000-07:002008-07-15T20:11:00.000-07:00Crazy Lady- Thank you. Really.Amy- You totally re...Crazy Lady- Thank you. Really.<BR/><BR/>Amy- You totally reminded me of something I meant to address in this post. I talk about what happened to me because it has given SO MANY WOMEN A VOICE. Even if I am the only person they are sharing their story with, that means a LOT. And I have heard so many stories. The thing is, people tell me I'm brave. But I'm not near as brave as the women who face this all alone. With no outlet. I share for them. And if other people don't like it, that's their own problem.<BR/><BR/>Crys- I agree 1000% with what you said. And it is awesome to have your perspective having been there yourself. I know this person didn't mean me any malice. But I also don't think he wanted any other answer than, "Oh my GOSH, I am so totally saved! Thank you for showing me YOUR way!"<BR/><BR/>Miss Britt- I'd happily share that Pro Child, Pro Choice sticker with you! It couldn't be more true.<BR/><BR/>And yeah, sometimes I think I need to be a little more liberal with the fuck you's. It's pretty annoying feeling the need to hug everyone all the time.Zubehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10625067612757615790noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-76791930801376621772008-07-15T15:51:00.000-07:002008-07-15T15:51:00.000-07:00First, I very much want to steal your "Pro Child, ...First, I very much want to steal your "Pro Child, Pro Choice" sticker.<BR/><BR/>But ANYway...<BR/><BR/>Forgive the misuse of religious terms here, but you handled this with a lot more Grace than I would have.<BR/><BR/>It seems to me that whenever anyone appears to be comfortable in their own skin and head online, there will always be people who want to point out that you "are trying to look like you have it all together".<BR/><BR/>And to them I say:<BR/><BR/>Fuck you, good sir. Fuck you.Miss Britthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12934134485175970612noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-21452996853206462482008-07-15T15:41:00.000-07:002008-07-15T15:41:00.000-07:00you're right, this person was probably doing what ...you're right, this person was probably doing what he thought was best at the time. there was no malice. <BR/><BR/>still, i honestly believe that these types of Christians don't truly understand how condescending they come across. or arrogant. or narrow minded. if others do not believe the same as they do, then they are wounded, enslaved, in the dark or worst of all, unsaved. they are doomed. there is no allowance for simple human experience, for interpretation, for different ways of coping. it's simply THIS IS THE WAY, I WANT YOU TO HAVE WHAT I HAVE BY GOING THIS WAY. and if you refuse, you are just another swine they refuse to throw their "pearls" to. it's endless. it's exhausting. i know, because i was a fundamentalist Christian for YEARS.<BR/><BR/>this post was excellent. thank you.Cryshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08153955519578237380noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-52039366658930412402008-07-15T14:11:00.000-07:002008-07-15T14:11:00.000-07:00If you don't mind me continuing with the snark for...If you don't mind me continuing with the snark for a moment. Were you to send this guy say, Conversations with God, or The Four Agreements - he'd be offended to no end. <BR/><BR/>Why is it ok, for someone to invade your life, make assumptions, and then send you *IMHO* inappropriate "gifts" as long as you are a holy roller? <BR/><BR/>I'm sure this guy would not have had your grace, gratitude, and eloquence had you thought it best to send him rosary beads. <BR/><BR/>I for one support you in all the progress you have made, all the things you do for others, and your ability to put yourself on the line by opening up about what you have been through. <BR/><BR/>If someone finds that "disturbing" than clearly they would prefer to live in a sanitized bubble era 1950's where all the bad shit was going on but nobody every talked about.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-11621502.post-51414268826771760492008-07-15T14:10:00.000-07:002008-07-15T14:10:00.000-07:00Handled with grace and finesse. Beautiful.Handled with grace and finesse. Beautiful.Crazy Ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03004728572017601091noreply@blogger.com